Dating in 2020 comes with an unusual obligation: to keep up with an entire lexicon that’s updated every three minutes, with quippy terms meant to encapsulate every conceivable type of heartbreak.

As if just getting out there isn’t insufferable enough.

The latest tedious entry is “whelming.” Coined by writer Patia Braithwaite in a Self magazine essay, “whelming is what happens when my matches spontaneously lament about how overwhelmed they are by their other matches instead of, you know, flirting with me,” writes Braithwaite.

Instead of talking about something outside of the actual dating apparatus, the guilty party will “vent” about how they’re juggling so many potential paramours on so many sites — on a date with an actual potential paramour.

“I’ve matched with quite a few men who have felt the need to tell me that they have so many matches and that they’re overwhelmed,” one exasperated single tells Braithwaite.

Yet “whelming” actually has us longing for simpler days when “ghosting” was a quaint novelty. The Post compiled an exhaustive (and perhaps painful) compendium of the worst dating terms of the past decade, including cougar (an older woman who dates younger men), catfish (to trick someone through a false online persona) and the now-ubiquitous “Netflix and chill” (to invite someone over under the guise of streaming shows together, with the actual intention of hooking up).

This month, The Post added to its end-of-decade dating dictionary, including “Fleabagging” (to serially date people who just aren’t good for you — inspired by the hit TV series), “White Clawing” (to date someone exclusively for their good looks — inspired by the popular brand of hard seltzer) and, naturally, to bring it full circle, “Caspering” (to ghost someone but offer an explanation for it).

Forget bringing roses and chocolate on your date this Valentine’s Day — a dictionary may come more in handy.

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