DEAR DEIDRE: MY mum-in-law thinks my husband is still a little boy who she can boss around, and it’s ruining our lives.
She muscles in on everything and it’s driving me mad.
She even invited herself on our honeymoon, took over the seating plan at our wedding – and constantly calls “family meetings” over the weekends, that we have to attend.
I’m 32, my husband is 33 and my mum-in-law is 59.
I couldn’t believe it when she and my father-in-law insisted on paying for our honeymoon – it was so generous.
But a week before our wedding they revealed they had booked the next door cottage on our Greek island so they could share some of our “special time” together.
My husband is sick of it, too, but struggles to stand up to her.
So it’s me who puts my foot down, then I’m regarded as a troublemaker.
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I honestly feel I’m being strangled when I’m around her.
How do I change this frustrating relationship?
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DEIDRE SAYS: No doubt, your mum-in-law is used to being the matriarch of the family.
She’s used to calling all the shots.
Talk to your husband and see if he will let her know that, although she will always be a big part of your lives, she also needs to allow you to make your own decisions.
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Gently, but firmly lay down some boundaries and she will start to get the message.
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