My new lover keeps getting infections when we have sex – what can be causing it?

DEAR DEIDRE: WHENEVER my new lover and I get intimate, she gets an infection.

I’m 59 and she’s 58. We’re both divorced and were single for many years, so we were delighted to find real love again.


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We both had STI tests before we had sex together.

Still, every time we have sex, she develops a urinary tract infection. After the second episode, I insisted we stopped having intercourse.

Yet any type of intimacy leads to a new infection.

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Her GP prescribed antibiotics, but the infections keep coming back.

What can be causing it?

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DEIDRE SAYS: Women often get UTIs during sex because friction transfers bacteria into the urethra. This can happen with oral sex as well as penetrative sex.

After menopause, the drop in oestrogen makes UTIs more likely, too.

Suggest she asks her GP about menopause treatment in general, specifically vaginal oestrogen suppositories, and for a referral to a urologist.

Vaginal lubricants and drinking lots of fluids help.

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