DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner came home unexpectedly and caught me dressed in women’s clothes.
She was so shocked that she threw me out and cut up all my suits and trousers, saying I wouldn’t need them any more.
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I am 42 and have been secretly cross-dressing for years.
My partner of three years is 40 and I knew she wouldn’t understand, so I kept it from her.
I was so humiliated – I was out on the pavement in a dress, wig and make-up, with nowhere to go.
She screamed that I was a disgusting pervert, and I’m sure all the neighbours heard.
I ended up walking a mile to my friend’s house. She’s the only person who knows about my cross-dressing.
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She took me in. But I can’t stay there for ever and I can’t go home.
I feel desperate and don’t know what to do.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Your partner was deeply shocked and her reaction was angry – cruel even.
Even if the relationship is over, ask if she will talk to you so you can sort things out and retrieve your possessions.
Please talk to someone who can support you. Contact the Beaumont Society who advise on trans issues (beaumontsociety.org.uk, 01582 412 220).
My pack on Cross-dressing contains details for further sources of support.
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