Toyboy husband turned down birthday sex – I'm convinced he's cheating | The Sun

DEAR DEIDRE: I’M convinced my toyboy husband is cheating on me after he turned down my offer of sex on his birthday.

We’ve been married for ten years but for some reason it has become a sexless marriage.

I’m 49 and he is 40. We used to joke around, saying he’s my toyboy when we started dating, but genuinely the age gap has never been an issue until now.

For the past year he has been off with me. He never compliments me and never initiates sex any more.

It’s always me, and to my surprise he’s started to make excuses not to have sex.

I decided to make a real effort to win him round on his birthday.

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I got my hair done and painted my nails his favourite colour red.

I know his sexual taste well, so I figured even though I don’t particularly enjoy oral sex I will give it to him as a treat for his birthday.

I thought if I did this he wouldn’t be able to resist.

When our guests went home, I tried to seduce him but when I went to perform the act he moved my hands away and said he’s too tired.

I feel so ugly. Could it be that as I head towards 50, he doesn’t find me attractive any more?

He’s in his prime and I wouldn’t be surprised if he’s seeing someone else because we’ve gone six months without sex, which is not like him.

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DEIDRE SAYS: Do keep in mind it’s not just you getting older, he is too.

And just like women, men can experience changes and physical challenges that affect their sex drive.

It could be stress or physical changes (from the age of 30 men’s testosterone levels start to drop) that could affect his appetite for sex.

Try not to jump straight to the conclusion of cheating until you have found a moment to have a heart to heart with him to explain how this is making you feel.

There could be a simple explanation, and one that could make you closer.

My support packs Looking After Your Relationship and Reviving A Man’s Sex Drive explain more.

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