Hairdresser who lost £70,000 playing online slot machines in just ONE AFTERNOON has urged other women to seek help with their gambling addictions – after turning her own life around
- Christine Tolani,39, found herself crippled with debt due to gambling problem
- The hairdresser from Wembley was addicted to playing online slot machines
- She even had a time-share hotel room in Las Vegas, the gambling capital
A hairdresser who lost a staggering £70,000 in just one afternoon is urging women to seek help with gambling addiction after her own slot machine nightmare ruined her life.
Christine Tolaini, 39, a hairdresser from Wembley, London, enjoyed gambling for as far back as she remembers – as a small child, she loved playing on the 2p and 10p machines at arcades.
At the age of 21, she went to Las Vegas for the first time, and realised she was more excited by gambling than her friends.
By the time she was 22, Christine even had a timeshare hotel room in Las Vegas, and visited once a year so she could feed her gambling habit.
Christine playing the slot machines in Las Vegas, which is known for being the world’s gambling capital. During her 20’s, the hairdresser from Wembley had her very own hotel room timeshare in the US city, so she could indulge her love of slot machines
The 39-year-old hairdresser has since turned her life around, but during the darkest days of her addiction, lost £70,000 in just one afternoon playing online slot machines
Despite the thrill of casinos, the real addiction didn’t start until a decade later when the hairdresser started online betting.
In 2016, Christine started to gamble away all her earnings and racked up hundreds of thousands of pounds worth of credit card debt.
Realising she had a serious problem, by the age of 34 she had started recovery for her addiction, but relapsed twice as she was lured back in the world of gambling by free online bet offers.
Like many addictions, the hairdresser described her habit as ‘something fun she did on weekends’ – until it spiralled out of control.
The hairdresser is ‘happier than ever’ now she has kicked her gambling habit after several relapses – but claims that sites can ‘lure people in’
After 18 years of misery, Christine finally sought help, and is now urging other women to do the same, after falling back into bad habits when accounts she hadn’t closed deposited hundreds of pounds into her online gambling accounts
Christine said: ‘I can’t even describe the feeling of it, I was hopeless, I didn’t know how I was going to get out of it.
‘At first it was just a fun thing I did at weekends.
‘It seemed different when I had to withdraw physical cash, it was easier to control.’
Six years ago, Christine won £150 from a 10p free bet and was soon playing online slots and online bingo every night, placing increasingly bigger bets until she reached breaking point.
Christine kept some of her accounts open during recovery as a ‘safety net’ in case she felt the urge to gamble, but they ultimately led to her relapse and she has now closed her accounts for good
She lost one years’ worth of salary in an evening, amounting to £45k.
The second time she relapsed was in 2020, when she lost £70k in one afternoon, playing an online slot machine.
As a new survey revealed that female gambling is becoming more common due to the cost-of-living crisis, she said: ‘I felt completely lost.
‘I didn’t know what to do but I knew I needed help.
Seeing the GP didn’t help Christine, as she claims they ‘didn’t know what to do with her’ when she broke down and told them she had a gambling problem – and credits GA (Gamblers Anonymous) for supporting her recovery
‘I went to the doctors, and they didn’t know what to do with me. Eventually I found a gamblers anonymous group.
‘Now I am happy to see more women are coming forward and speaking out, I don’t feel so alone with it anymore.’
What are the signs I have a gambling addiction?
According to sites such as addiction.com and Gamblers Anonymous there are several signs you may have a gambling problem
1. Preoccupied with gambling to a point in which you don’t care about anything else
2.Continuation of gambling despite losing large amount of money
3. An impact on jobs, relationships and finances due to gambling
4.When not gambling, withdrawing from usual activities and becoming depressed
5. Attempts to stop gambling end in repeated failure
6.Thinking that gambling or going to a casino is directly related to your own happiness
7.Stealing or breaking the law to gamble
8.When family or friends ask you about your gambling habit or casino use you deny you have a problem
9.Hiding gambling behavior
Christne revealed how a year-and-a-half into her recovery, a gambling site deposited £400 into an account she had not closed.
On this occasion, instead of relapsing, she managed to resist temptation.
But in 2020, another betting site deposited £150 into her account, which decided to use – and ended up winning £1,500.
According to Christine, she didn’t block off her accounts to ‘leave the window open’- a common strategy for many addicts, many struggle to close their accounts completely.
These accounts being open triggered a third relapse and quickly she found herself back in the throes of a gambling problem.
Christine said: ‘For me gambling was a distraction from my emotional problems, it was a compulsion that made my brain calm down.
‘I had to take time off- It put strain on all my relationships.
‘I didn’t always think I would win, but there was some excitement in the risk factor, and I gambled when I was in a good mood too.’
The 39-year-old is thankful she has been able to be honest and open in her personal and professional life about her vice, but it hasn’t always been easy.
She admitted: ‘It’s a very hidden problem but I wasn’t eating, and I wasn’t sleeping, I wasn’t concerned about looking after myself.’
The 39-year-old now realises that after 18 years, recovery isn’t something she can dip in and out of, rather it is a constant process.
She said: ‘I was losing such extreme amounts of money and I can’t believe the banks were allowing me to have this amount of credit cards.
‘Someone should’ve been monitoring that I had eight credit cards and was losing that amount of money.’
Reports show that more females are starting to gamble online due to the cost-of-living crisis, as the promise of winning big is alluring for those struggling with money
‘Betting companies lure people in with free bets and banning credit cards from betting sites isn’t enough as gamblers will always find a way.’
‘The accessibility and advertising is making it worse, I want to make people aware of the help and support they can get.’
Christine is now almost debt free and is happier than ever after accessing support services, especially Gamblers Anonymous, and is currently training to become a Peer Aid support worker at BetKnowMore to help other women in crisis.
How can I get help for a gambling addiction?
The charity GambleAware has launched a prevention campaign targeting women, to raise awareness of vital support available for those who may be struggling.
If you are worried about your gambling or that of a loved one, or are starting to lose track of time, spending more than you can afford, or hiding your gambling from others, please don’t hesitate to visit BeGambleAware.org for free confidential support, or call the National Gambling Helpline on 0808 8020 133.
Organisations like Gamblers Anonymous are free services, and hold in person and online meetings at all times of the day or night and offer a 12-step-program to help with addiction as well as sponsorship.
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