DEAR DEIDRE: AS a young couple, we just couldn’t keep our hands off each other and it wasn’t unusual for us to have sex every day.

But now we are in our late forties and my husband seems to have lost interest.


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He is 49 and I am 48. I used to feel desirable but now feel unattractive and my confidence is dipping.

We have sex only about three times a week, if I make a move.

He says he’s just tired and still fancies me. But he admits his sex drive is lower than it was.

I just wish he would make a move on me every now and again.

DEIDRE SAYS: Try not to see any slowing down of his libido as a reflection of how much he loves or fancies you.

It is completely normal for men’s libidos to dip as they get older.

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For many people, sex three times a week is a healthy sex life.

Talk to your husband and frame the issue as something you would like to solve together.

I’m sending you my support pack Different Sex Drives, which will help.

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