DEAR DEIDRE: I’m wondering whether I could take out a restraining order on one of my ex-boyfriend’s past lovers.

I’m 32 and he is 35. He’s a player and always has been.

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Throughout our relationship, he cheated on me with different people and this resulted in two pregnancies – one of the women pregnant by him was a family friend.

I could take no more of his infidelity, so finished our relationship.

But his ex-lover and her family are constantly calling round to see if he is with me, demanding money for his baby son and generally making a nuisance of themselves.

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I’m not involved with him any more but they won’t accept that.

I just want a peaceful life without fear of unwelcome visitors at my front door.

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DEIDRE SAYS: Make contact with your ex somehow, either by registered letter or text him, and tell him he must talk to this woman and her family and tell them that you are no longer a couple – if he doesn’t you are going to go to the police.

You’ll find great help through National Stalking Helpline (, 0808 802 0300) which helps anyone made to feel harassed or intimidated by the behaviour of another person.

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