DEAR DEIDRE: I MARRIED a complete monster. I discovered his ugly secrets only after we got hitched. He’s violent and my wedding ring was paid for with money he stole from an old man.

I’m a woman of 32 and he’s 40. We married six months after we met.

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Two months later, he went to the pub after work, and when he got home his dinner was ruined.

So he punched me.

I ran to my sister’s then the police. Under Clare’s Law, I learned he had been done for assault before.

I also discovered he had a conviction for fraud and I think he ripped off an old man for thousands. I reckon he used that cash to pay for our wedding.

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My family believe I’m happily married but I’m miserable and feel trapped.

He’s everything I hate in a person. How can I have been such a fool?

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DEIDRE SAYS: You are not the first person to fall for the charms of a conman, so don’t be too hard on yourself.

Be honest with your family about what is going on.

You can find support through the National Domestic Abuse Helpline (, 0808 2000 247).

In April, the rules are changing for divorce, which will make the process simpler.

Read more about it from Amicable, which can help you get a cheaper divorce if you request a no-obligation free advice call 0203 004 4695 or visit

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