I'm struggling to forgive myself after sleeping with a married colleague

DEAR DEIDRE: I SLEPT with a married colleague and am struggling to forgive myself.

I never thought I was capable of doing this to somebody. He’s 49, I’m 29 and we work for an estate agency.


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We’d gone for a drink one night to discuss a few projects we were working on.

But quickly the conversation moved on, and it felt like we were on a first date.

He wanted to know everything about me, and was throwing quite a few compliments my way.

As we waited outside for our cabs, he gave me a hug.

But he lingered, as if he was waiting for something. Suddenly his hands were on my waist and he was kissing me.

We ended up going back to mine.

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But we didn’t even make it to the bedroom – we had sex up against the kitchen counter.

The sex was great, but I felt sick the minute it was over. What had I done?

I hate myself, and the worst part is I’ve seen photos of his wife and she looks really lovely.

DEIDRE SAYS: You made a mistake and have learned it wasn’t for you. The best thing you can do is tell this man there will be no repeat performance.

Now that you know liaisons with other people’s husbands leave you feeling guilty and low, put your energies into meeting someone who is available.

Endlessly punishing yourself won’t help anyone. It’s time to draw a line under this and move on. My support pack Feeling Guilty? has tips to help you forgive yourself.

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