My wife is distraught after I watched gay porn but I really am straight

DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife caught me watching gay porn and now she thinks I don’t fancy her.

I’ve always considered myself lucky as she has a really high sex drive, and before the birth of our son, we were having sex once or twice a day.


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She’s 32, I’m 37. But two months after giving birth, she was still in pain.

We agreed I could watch porn and pleasure myself until she was ready.

But last week, she walked in on me getting off to gay porn and burst into tears.

She thinks that I find her post-baby body so unattractive that it put me off women altogether.

Before we were married, I did sleep with a couple of guys. I enjoyed it, but I’ve never had any feelings towards men.

How do I convince her that I’m not gay and I really am straight?

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DEIDRE SAYS: You enjoyed sex with men, so there is some type of attraction there. It is common for people to be attracted to their own gender at some point in their lives.

My support pack Bisexual Questions will help you think this through. Your wife will be feeling self-conscious and vulnerable at the moment, so it’s important you reassure her – again and again.

My support pack Relationship MOT has tips on how to hit the reset button.

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